Frugalista Meets Fashionista

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

Stop spending time with the wrong people
. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.
Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Break ups are the worst. Especially when cheating is involved. I should know, I was a victim too. For many years I have suffered and I admit that until now, I am still afraid to trust anyone. I became insecure, paranoid and depressed. I always thought, I will never be enough. The truth is,it’s not really up to us to know if we are enough or not. It all depends on how our partner sees us. Nobody is prefect, we all make mistakes. But what we do is we try our best the be everything our partner want and need but we always end up failing. I believe that a relationship fails if we are not contented,not because we are not perfect. And since its the nature of human to want more,people tend to seek that person who can satisfy our needs even if there is no love involved.

This is when bad break ups happen. We tend to be angry and revengeful. But not all people deal with break up in the same manner. There are still people like me who deals with break up differently. It is important we know why we are doing what we are doing after the break up. We should know what kind of outcome we want because if we dont know,all the time and effort we spend to seek revenge would be useless.

I dont think the best revenge we can do to an ex is by making her life miserable. Why? Because that will just make you a sour loser. It will just make her think that she is really better of without you. I think the best way to handle is to show grace under pressure. Show her what she lost. Make her regret hurting and leaving you.
Maybe for now I will not understand why things have to end like this. I guess your reason was enough to just leave..to just walk away. You are smart. I know you made a conscious choice and maybe you are dealing with this way better than i am.
Again,my heart and my mind won’t compromise. I want to plot a retaliation,but i guess I dont have it in me. Though others may think na “katangahan lang yan”,but this “tanga” side of me is also the one wishing you to be happy with the decision you made. I guess,i wasn’t the one you needed. I guess I will always feel empty and lost just like before. I guess i am not the one for you. I wish you well. I am tired being miserable.

You’re just reminding them of the mistakes they made back then. If you watch their facial expression carefully, then you’ll see the hurt in their eyes as they reminisce everything that happened. Never use emotion as a weapon, it strikes deeper than you can imagine.

(Source: maryjeanine)

Whoever said that “The truth will set you free” is a fucking liar. It doesn’t apply in all cases. Sometimes, telling the truth means that you are about to  fuck everything up. And what sickens me is that, once you said it, there is no turning back. You have to face whatever consequences of the action you just did.

Life is more simple when one doesn’t know everything. In relationships, i think it is better to with hold some information especially when it concerns how or what you truly feel. I hate lying. But sometimes, I admit, I am forced to do it just because I don’t want to cause any trouble. But in this particular scenario, I really thought that the truth will be the best decision to make. But I guess I am wrong. Because  instead of hearing out my underlying reasons, I was judged and accused of being a a selfish bitch. But the thing is, I did it because I need to be cruel to be kind.You see, if I prolong the deceit, it would make me a heartless monster who sucks out the life on  an unsuspecting lovestruck prey then take advantage of their feelings for me. I don’t want to be like that. I’d rather be hated for being true to myself than to perpetuate the agony both of us will feel.

I don’t really get this love thing. It is true when they say that “Love is complicated. We can never tell when to give up and when to keep trying. When to let go and when to hold on.”.

Now, the question is, if lying will save your relationship, would you do it? Think about it.

 YES WE HAD CLOSURE

BUT DAMMIT I FEEL LIKE MY HEART’S TEARING APART. I DON’T WANT TO FEEL ANYMORE. I DON’T WANT THIS HURT TO LAST. I DON’T WANT TO WANT YOU. I DON’T WANT TO LET GO, BUT I MUST. I MUST. 

I must. 

I have to let go. 

It’s for the best. 

We can’t be stuck in this moment. 

We can’t be stuck. 

Fuck. 

Just. Know I’ll always love you. Always. In every fucking way.

-Rizza Cabrera

I act like I don’t care, but you’ll never know how much it kills me inside.